So I view life as a Markov decision process. If you know the layout of the chessboard, and you know the rules of the game, you know the best move. How the board came to be is irrelevant.
With adhd it can be hard to weigh your options. Listing pros and cons? Yeah it doesn’t work. Because the loud one is in charge of language and the quiet one is in charge of planning.
So. You don’t know the past or future. You still know the best move. It’s a basic decision making principle in AI.
Previous moves have just served to teach you the rules of the game. This is important. You know the target. Also important. If you replay recent events you will just be back on the track, and not able to make a decision.
So you need to stop, and view the situation as a total blank slate. You are starting from zero every second. What is the optimal move? Adjust your rules based on the result. Blank slate, optimal move, adjust.
Then there’s risk. I can’t balance risk in my mind very well. I like to think I can, but I can’t. I have monotropic thinking and am impulsive.
So what I do is look at consequence, not likelihood.
What is the consequence? Death? Less ice cream?
Is this decision reversible (buying a car) or irreversible (having a child).
This is the way I get my ‘true self’, my autistic side, logic, whatever, back in the driver’s seat.
Stop. Blank slate. One step. Repeat.
A process. Kills decision paralysis too.
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