man i hate that term - reaching out. just reaching out to blah blah.
just grasping. clinging. trying to get something even if it is hidden. i was a recruiter and i hated recruitment and tried to focus on real relationships but there was always an agenda.
just grasping and clinging for something. not even a fee or a placement maybe just human contact and approval. just reaching out and asking for someone to respond so that xyz gets outside verification or whatever.
was that the agenda? sometimes the agenda can be positive - i want to help someone or i want to build something good. usually it is. but there’s the destructive cycle which comes from trying to instigte these things.
you are giving someone else the keys to your perceptual framework. you heart, if you like. you are undertaking kamma with kamma - you are trying to do a good deed with good results or a bad deed with bad results.
for me it was the former but this still means attachment to the good results and the handing of those potential results to another, which means that the outcome of the grasping or reaching out or whatever is not something i control. you are attached to the whim of another framework which has been trained differently to you and then you squirm and squeak when they do not play the same way as you would.
and that causes internal rumination; could i have said something better or different or whatever; i was aiming for something good but i was maybe misunderstood. how does this person view me.
and then you are back to trying to read a mirror through a mirror… but that doesn’t carry. it’s more like you’re trying to read a prism through a mirror, or you’er wearing different colour glasses and talking about the shade of the sky again.
reaching out is literally a synonym for grasping. no wonder i always hated it and refused to say it. but i still did it, didn’t i? had to pay the bills. had to get that approval. and the more it is withheld, the more you want it.
but this is just a reinforcement loop. if you don’t reach out then you don’t feel the need to reach out, and this is why people just stop trying to go to others to teach and instead let others come to them, i guess. this is why the jehovas witnesses are so despised, with their limited number of slots in heaven and amway style religious pyramid scheme.
so i guess this is why you just publish and forget. don’t promote. let it fly. kamma without kamma. you take the action, if the action comes naturally, and you let anyone interested come to you.
the fruit of the dhamma will only ripen when the times are right. fucking recruitment though man. it’s literally swimming against the current most of the time. or the headhunting style is did was anyway. might not be so bad if you just stick adverts on the internet and wait for people to come to you.
but then it’s them who are reaching out and you have a whole other problem.
just polish swords and write shite on the internet which nobody reads haha. it is the better way.
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